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some psychologist guy weighs in on why we like certain people. any thoughts or personal relation to this?

2020.07.04 19:45 mongoreggie some psychologist guy weighs in on why we like certain people. any thoughts or personal relation to this?

"The same exactly goes for liking certain people. We like people who remind us of the things that we like about ourselves and who pull us away from the things we hate about ourselves.
That's why a shy and beautiful girl might become attracted to a confident and attractive man.
We like certain people when we find in them a mixture of the things that we like about ourselves and the opposite of the things we hate about ourselves." from 2knowmyself
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2020.07.04 19:43 mongoreggie research on why we like certain people

"The same exactly goes for liking certain people. We like people who remind us of the things that we like about ourselves and who pull us away from the things we hate about ourselves.
That's why a shy and beautiful girl might become attracted to a confident and attractive man.
We like certain people when we find in them a mixture of the things that we like about ourselves and the opposite of the things we hate about ourselves." from 2knowmyself
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2020.01.06 13:51 ButteryToast27 Some resources for people like me who are looking for solid reasons to quit

https://www.2knowmyself.com/The_bad_psychological_effects_of_masturbation
https://www.2knowmyself.com/Why_masturbation_will_never_help_you_release_sexual_frustration
https://www.2knowmyself.com/how_harmful_is_internet_porn_addiction
I don’t know if the scientific claims are reliable but they work for motivation so they might as well be true
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2019.12.22 17:10 ecc801stfk Attract Anyone in Few Days Using Advanced Psychology 2KnowMySelf

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2019.12.10 12:10 smokeupnchill How watching porn can kill your motivation and make you lazy

https://www.2knowmyself.com/How_watching_porn_can_kill_your_motivation
TL;DR :
Basically, too much dopamine from porn desensitises the brain, low amount of natural dopamine fails to work like it naturally should.
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2019.02.15 23:02 mwobuddy2 Women who make fun of men who become needy or seem desperate when they're given attention might just as well mock neglected dogs that cant get enough attention when someone is nice to them.

its abundantly clear that the reason women hate such kinds of men is because A: it shows him as weak and B: it shows him as sexually undesirable.
https://couplestherapyinc.com/mate-poaching/
https://askclairecasey.com/mate-poaching-she-wants-to-steal-your-man/
Truth be told, I've never been so attractive to women in general when I was in a relationship with someone else. That alone tells me more than any self-help books.
https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/7853ez/an-anthropologist-explains-why-over-40-of-people-refuse-to-date-virgins
(The actual statistic, from her 2013 Match.com study, is much higher: around 42 percent. And women are much less likely to date a virgin than men.)
Fisher first gained international fame when she and her colleagues put 49 people into a brain scanner (fMRI) to study the brain circuitry involved in romantic love. Fisher and her neurological experts concluded that romantic love is basic drive, like hunger or thirst, that operates below all cognitive thinking and feeling; she equated the concept with cocaine. You get addicted to a person, defying logic and risking a lot to get more of them.
First, we can go over the fact that women prefer non-virgin men. In other words, his sexual VALUE is required to be demonstrated in order for him to be attractive. A needy or desperate man, like a neglected dog, has no VALUE because of his behavior proving his lack of value.
Second, Just look at the claims regarding romantic love as a drive like hunger or thirst. No wonder the "stop being thirsty" meme rose to prominence. And yes, tell a person who hasn't had water for 24 hours to "stop being thirsty".
"I have data to show [that] is not true," Fisher laughs. "In my studies, questioning 25,000 American people, I have found that men fall in love more often. They fall in love sooner; when they meet someone they are in love with, they want to introduce her to friends and family sooner; they want to move in sooner."
So is it that the whole complaint on the part of women that men just want to use and dump women because women prefer men who are likely to be users who dump them?
https://www.2knowmyself.com/Why_do_women_find_narcissists_so_attractive
https://psychcentral.com/blog/new-study-explains-why-we-find-narcissists-so-attractive/
tl;dr
Women making fun of or being repulsed by men who appear needy or desperate are not attracted due to low sexual value, not to the individual. They might as well be mocking needy dogs who haven't been given attention.
Fisher, a woman, suggests the need for R love is just as bad as hunger and thirst, indicating why a person might become needy or desperate. Women thus could just as easily be mocking african children for having no food.
Women complain that men are not able to commit but find narcissistic men (the opposite of needy in appearance) who will use them for personal gain and then leave them, more attractive, and avoid men who are virgins.
Given enough of this information, it stands to reason that men should stop being so empathetic to women who find themselves "in a bad relationship". Their motives were not pure from the start, and ended up receiving what they deserved.
And as always: https://cheezburger.com/3017733/guy-conducts-twisted-experiment-on-tinder-as-fake-child-rapist-and-gets-horrifying-results
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2018.08.11 06:08 lillets conventionally ugly women, how did you learn to deal with your looks?

this post is not for insecure average or pretty looking women to answer. this is for women with a face thats considered ugly by most people.
and yes looks do matter. being conventionally attractive can determine how people treat you.
people also care about your talents, smarts, and personality less. if you are ugly, nobody will even bother to notice it in the first place. it sucks as an ugly woman because society has placed such a huge value on womens looks...
but yeah honestly i just need some true inspiring posts by legitimately conventionally ugly women to help me accept being ugly. no fake shit written by normal/pretty looking girls please.
edit: no i'm not deluded, i don't have BDD. i am genuinely considered ugly in the face by 99% of people. my nose is too narrow but blobby at the end with a recessed septum, my eyes are bug like/too big (yes that can be bad), and my lips don't exist. most people find this very ugly. it's hard to ignore abuse i recieve from a majority of people including strangers due to my looks alone. no makeup, hair style, or clothes can change an ugly face.
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2018.02.11 00:30 helpless_bunny Venustraphobia or caligynephobia

Also known as the fear of beautiful women.
https://www.2knowmyself.com/Dealing_with_Venustraphobia_caligynephobia/fear_of_beautiful_women
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2017.09.17 08:54 RobotChikin K-holed on memantine? Experience my trip, via journal entries I typed while tripping.

I've never done Ketamine. I know that Memantine and Ketamine are both NMDA antagonists, but that's the limit of my knowledge of what a K-hole like experience is. This is a look at my journal (after accidentally taking too much from Nootropic Source's memantine). I had hundreds of life-changing realizations and although I can understand it, much of it is hard to follow -but it's honest, non-filtered feed from my mind. I'd like to know if I indeed had a K-hole experience (I believe I did). Enjoy :)
09/14/17 -09/16/17: The Memantine Trip
Memantine is a potent neuromodulating medicine - it is an uncompetitive antagonist of the NMDA receptor. When you begin it, I would urge you to start out at low doses and titrate the dose up in ~5mg increments every week after acclimatization. It can cause some significant derealization and cognitive brain-fog if not titrated properly, and most importantly, patiently.
09/14/17 --> 5 pm
I ignored these warnings. I first transferred the bag that the memantine came in into a small plastic container, and decided to clean the bag that the memantine came in with water, and I drank that water. When I later weighed 10 mg it was MUCH smaller than what I had originally thought. I then knew I was in for a trip. My only regret is that I don't know the dose at which I took it; this is vital information that would have helped me spread the message in a much more efficient way. Having said that, I can guesstimate that I took a dose of about 150-200 mg.
http://www.alzforum.org/news/research-news/mini-stroke-does-mega-damage-can-memantine-help
This study describes a rat that had an induced brain clot and it affected its ability to make decisions. When scientists injected the rat with memantine, the clot cleared up and the rat was fine again. Memantine is used for old people with Alzheimer's, a disease in which tiny blood vessels all around your brain get clots and affect your memory and shit. Many people with late stages don't even remember their own kids, it's so sad. But memantine is a drug that fights that- so you see, it's neuroprotective (protects the neurons in your brain) instead of most drugs which destroy the neurons in your brain.
At 6 or 7 pm it started hitting hard
Johnny, read this article in the morning. I am super fucked up but so proud of how much you've achieved under such stress and in such pain. Memantine, I believe, is the key to what you're looking for. At first, I would hyperfocus on everything (like with the Rick and morty episode, I was sucked into the world so fast). Anyways, my problem seems that I have TWO distinct demons - anxiety and inattention. I must research the chit out of those two things. But, that is nothing compared to physical pain. On memantine I felt almost no pain. NMDA antagonists are very helpful. With the help of memantine (my pain, OCD) maybe I can decrease the meds. I'd love to have no marijuana but that may not happen.
It seems I sober very quickly and acclimate to whatever the new activity is. Is reside in it 100%.
At 9 pm I felt it full force
I felt what TRUE LOVE feels like when I was with my girlfriend. She lets me be myself, but she calls me on shit. That is an important distinction. When we were flipping through instagram feeds and I felt moms beauty but dads smugness. We were just talking about beauty, anxiety, how beautiful people get anxiety, I started crying cause I was visualizing myself being young talking to the acting lady and she was like "you're good looking" but I didn't take it to heart. I let my demons and drugs drag me down. I need to be smart about it. If I'm going to control my anxiety (which is impossible for me to do without exercise and on the computer all day) without meds, fuh get it. Cause memantine works if you works it. And even right now I'm John’ing the shit outta my mind. I'm tripping but I'm Johnin the shit out of it. Done. I'm I literally just layed on my back, and said, "ok it's just you and me now John. No more anxiety. Why do you over analyze everything? I JUST ASKED MYSELF THAT! LLOLL. Look at "It" events. It being a celestial being.
Basically, you are getting older and will amount to only what you do and your history.
You are but a moment in time. Might as well help people along the way.
I want what Jobs had in the way that Steve Jobs had a vision for apple, and now that he's gone that vision is still afloat atop the wings of his trusted copilots.
09/15/17 --> 3:30 a.m.
I am so very clear on memantine. Gucci Mane just may be the smartest man alive. https://youtu.be/eJWS7JXLCBg
I also realized I am in no pain forgot to take my night time pain meds. How possible? Memantine. Hopefully it will get me the fuck off these other meds.
This is the perfect time to have gotten hurt. Some kid got signed because he got 1 million views on SoundCloud? I know I could do this. I am a masterClass marketer when I want to be. I can do it from home.
During this trip, in my cosmic "Gucci" trip, I've felt unnerving almost the entire time. I always wanted to be doing the thing after the thing I was doing. That's my life. The internet has turned that hellhole into a reality. Internet is an addiction and I have it. Goodnight.
I've come to the conclusion that the internet is cancer and can ruin your life if you give in to it
While listening to Shenmue radio- Maybe all of it - fame, money, fortune - I DO NOT NEED IT. All this trip has proven to me, is that tv, movies, books (basically all forms of entertainment) cannot produce me happiness. Happiness will be found through serenity, calm, peace. Peace. Joy. Music, but not by trap or rap or anything of that genre. Specifically, video game music. No lyrics, just landscapes.
Go to the beach more, feel the sand, smell the fresh air, this you must do.
Visit the places 23&me suggested. Stay sober (no weed). At all costs, try to keep weed out of the picture. You know it will ruin what you've layed the groundwork for. You met the woman. You have the degree. You have family. You have friends. Get health. Focus on your health. 👍🏻
You have a highly vivid imagination, so maybe one day directing or producing music and movies wouldn't be such a bad idea. But stop wasting so much time driving yourself insane by consuming their media, and create your own worlds in which you can thrive because, well, you made em. You love making. Always have. Do more of it. When did it stop?
Sexy Johnny, caring Christina, daring Dennis, magnificent Michael. Us 4.
Memantine has somehow unlocked incredible memory capabilities (rendering access to any part of my memories). It's cool, but I'm also nauseous and that's not. Goodnight
TBH fuck entertainment industry. You're a pretty FUCKING SMART guy. Always have been. The only thing that makes you dumb is the influence you give others over yourself. You've made guitar hooks (yellow card), predicted trends (china scoff crypto) but you still listen to others. Like the other day, when the stocks turned and tucker told you to buy? You should have shorted. You would've become rich. Fucking rich. Overaxagg Overexaggerate but you are fucking smart man. Look at the two images on your iPhone that explain the....... I just figured it out. Why I feel so dumb... my mind races 10000000 miles an hour, I have probably 5 interlapping thoughts at the same time, but that's what makes me brilliant.... I've always tried to stifle that, but because of that, I'm smart. So when I speak I need to be able to make others (and myself) comprehend what the fuck I'm even thinking. That's why I should journal, not for others, but for me to gather my thoughts and to put into focus the most important thoughts that count. Lovely. Kinda like “IT” is a celestial being and it needs the clown to be able to show to humans its form. If everyone thought like me, ... ahhh, that's why there's language. To convey thoughts. Well English is such a blhahhhh language. I need to be able to get my thoughts onto paper better.
Killer app idea. This is it. This is why you journal. To think of killer apps and memantine will make me rich and yes!!!!!!!!
....anyways, back to Tucker.... I just need to watch the news, and only the news, and listen for SIGNS. Follow your gut. Don't over analyze.
7 a.m.
14 hours since I took this shit, and I'm still in it pretty hard. The only reason I feel okay now is that I've become acclimated to this world. I feel so smart. I can make money and all this shit what the fuck? And my memory! Ohhhh. It's damn near perfect if it weren't for my upset stomach and the feeling of being high.
Ok. So I just found God.
In other words nostalgia can be described as a defense mechanism your mind uses to elevate your mood when it finds that you are not feeling that good. The more you become satisfied with your life the less nostalgia you will experience.
Now that I understand the massive power I have (the ability to take action) in my mind, there is no way this just came from nothing. Something HAD to have made my mind, my body - things like this don't just appear. Just as we're automating things in our computer (apps), God programmed us. It's an infinite loop that will never end. We might some day make other animals that have higher functions and understand them too....
Now that I understand all this, all I want is to make money so that I can travel the world with Este and my fam. For that, I need money. So, I want to understand money. I want to go into the financial sector.
I hope in my sober form I'll understand the trail that led to this realization.....
I'm both type A and B personalities infused into one. Fo sho.
Go back to the basics. Study with relaxing music, works a helluva lot better. MUCH! Maybe not the same classical Mozart shot, but try Shenmue Radio. Bed early, rise early, routine, etc. go back like you were back in college.
Also, I'm smart and all but there's lots of smart people. I have demons I'm fighting too. I can't make what I want happen with these demons in my head. I need to see a great psychologist to help with this. Great clinical psychologist!
It's like I have 31 years worth of thoughts trapped in this head. NO WEED!!!!!!!!!!!! That is an absolute must. Fuck the weed. No matter what. This is much much much much much better.
Also when I close my eyes I can't stop seeing IT. NO MORE HORROR MOVIES. I can't take em. Nothing bad. All good. I'm an everything addict. Nothing bad can go in this brain.
Maybe create some stuff to live on in eternity as well.
Bring your thoughts to completion. Allow the k-hole.
I was thinking about Jorge and how I felt so uncomfortable walking near him because I thought he didn't like me for whatever reason. What made it worse is I'm not big anymore so I scare easier, especially with people bigger than me. I followed this thought to completion and said, "well Johnny, the reason is probably because of your Dad when you were a child. You were always afraid he'd kick you out or hit you, so it carried in to other aspects." Also, when I text someone and they don't reply immediately, I think sometimes that they're never going to reply and that I lost a friend. This was also due to Dad - you just wanted his acceptance and it was very hard to get because of his temper and constantly had to walk on eggshells around him." Once I had these realizations, and I knew why I felt those anxieties, it was much easier to just accept and forget them. Knowing thyself is giving power you yourself.
Also, this website just allowed me to self-diagnose anxiety with memantine in about 30 seconds.
https://www.2knowmyself.com/i_feel_nostalgic_all_the_time
Now that I know what I know, I feel anytime watching anything other than the news is a waste of time.
Now that I'm lying here trying to sleep I'm having twisted thoughts like folding myself into halves like I'm Jerry from Rick and Morty season 3 ep 1 and cannot get It outa my head. It's laughing right now. In my head. If memantine is really an antagonist of Seratonin and an agonist of Dopamine, I may have to stop. I don't have social anxiety or ADHD anymore but this is certainly anxiety not helping my OCD.
The entertainment industry I think it's going to suck me back into a hole of never endingness, but I think were my true happiness or life is in academia. Also, when ask myself the question of what would I do if split between white or black family, who would I go with, looking at the black, I know I would have a lot more fun, but black fathers many times are not around. Rap today perpetuates this cycle by just singing about fucking other bitches other than their own girlfriends, which results in a kid not seeing their father. I keep connecting dots that end up being circular. Everything is circular. 
God every time I close my eyes all I seen or like torn up bodies and shit. No more bad movies or horror movies in my brain. Only good stuff.
React Native Progressive web apps is the future of apping. No one wants to download a bunch of apps to their phone with precious limited storage capabilities
I'm sitting here thinking about all the native iPhone experience I'm missing out on, but I can't stress enough how it is ruining my happiness. TEch is ruining my happiness. I think iphone may suck me in. I need to generalize and compartmentalism as much as possible.
The closed eyes visuals have been highly intense. I was forced to choose my own theme song as I was pushed in a GoT style set in a coffin on a wagon under a bridge, then I opened my eyes. Btw it was snowing. Now everything I even say the word "it" i get spooked. I'm so sensitive to everything man.
Man, just do whatever makes ya fuckin happy. That's why our ancestors immigrated here and all that shit. So that we could be happy. OR, I could keep the (last name censored) future generations in mind and work to build a massive amount of wealth in their favor. Choices, choices....
I'm back to the choices again (do what makes me happy), but now picking that apart. Need. A. Psychiatrist.
Also, I'm starting to learn that watching the market is all about reading the history. "Looking into ONE companies records for the past “x amount“ of years will tell you what you need to know, along with the news. And Reddit. Watch day trader Reddit. That's perfect. High risk (nothin to lose) high reward). You can't be the one to follow the herd tho. If the herds doing it, then it won't make you money. You have to make your own decisions. You're smart, you got it figured out man. Proud of you bud 👍🏻
Oh God damn do I have OCD. Even the telephone ring my girlfriend's parrot keeps singing it and it repeating in my head over and over, and over..... yeah. It's OCD. For sure. Social anxiety and ADHD are byproducts, but the main demon is OCD. I keep replaying that farmers only song in my head over and over and over. “You don’t have to be lonely, at FarmerOnly.com”. What a dumb website, but a catchy jingle - which has been playing in my mind almost the entire trip. Just like obsessively finding phrases. Man. I now know. Why “IT” and images I don't want keep popping in my head.
With Estefania (gf), I have that" grow old" love.
If things work, magnify them and use them more. If they don't, then cut it off.
6:45 pm
Now that it's 6:45 and I'm on a lower dose of memantine I can concentrate on the task at hand without too much interruption from the outside world. It KILLS my social anxiety. Like, buh bye. But the OCD aspect makes it hard to not obsess over everything now that no anxiety is in the way to stop me. I'm a diff person with people. I think before I speak, I'm thoughtful, kind, intelligent, interesting.... I do need to work on my conflict resolution skills tho. Honestly, I don't know where one anxiety ends and the other begins. Why can I now speak freely and intelligently in front of people, but I still cannot focus on one task at hand? Not sure.
9:30 pm
I just played guitar in the bathroom and it sounded insanely awesome. I used my trademark off the cuff singing style (like freestyle guitaring) and it was fucking awesome. Some dope ass shit. Just do what makes you happy. And THAT made me very happy. To be free of social anxiety and singing that? Awesome. Weed will fuck your social anxiety up again. You know it. Is it worth it? I don't think so.
09/16/17 --> 1 a.m.
I honestly feel, 30 hours later, that I have unlocked the matrix. I feel like memantine has blocked out the noise - it's unlocked parts of my brain that I knew were always there, but I never had access to because of anxieties or ADHD or whatever you want to call “IT” (I jokingly refer all bad things to “IT” now because the clown plagued my entire trip and I constantly had to feed positive things to myself so I wouldn't see images of IT. Some fucked up shit for sure, but I learned about investing, money, happiness, pain, beauty, and more, all in the last few days with memantine
I really put my parents through hell with all the drunk driving accidents. Imagine hearing that your child has crashed his car, and even worse, into hurt someone else. To have to be subjugated to that so many times must have been torture for them.
3:00 a.m. At hour 32 I downloaded an Artificial Intelligence book that I had every intention of reading straight through the night, but I was tired and fell asleep.
2:44 pm
I woke up this morning to horrible pain. Not nerve pain, but muscle. It felt as if I had been beaten with a bat. I was still able to talk to Este and recall the Eminem/Kim drama story I had read the night before with relative ease, and I could also still conscientiously talk to Jake without anxiety and choose my words based on what I wanted to say and not on what I thought he wanted to hear (like I usually do because of my social anxiety). Jake said he missed me in the text, and Tucker said the same when we texted the morning before. This was huge, being that I hadn't been able to form strong social connections in the last few years since my injury. This, I think, is the lowest half-life dose of memantine that I could handle, but maybe the best long-term.
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2017.09.16 21:25 RobotChikin Did I K-hole on memantine? A look at my journal throughout my 36-hour trip.

I've never done Ketamine. I know that Memantine and Ketamine are both NMDA antagonists, but that's the limit of my knowledge of what a K-hole like experience is. This is a look at my journal (after accidentally taking too much from Nootropic Source's memantine). I had hundreds of life-changing realizations and although I can understand it, much of it is hard to follow -but it's an honest, non-filtered feed straight from my mind. I'd like to know if I indeed had a K-hole experience (I believe I did). Enjoy :)
09/14/17 -09/16/17: The Memantine Trip
Memantine is a potent neuromodulating medicine - it is an uncompetitive antagonist of the NMDA receptor. When you begin it, I would urge you to start out at low doses and titrate the dose up in ~5mg increments every week after acclimatization. It can cause some significant derealization and cognitive brain-fog if not titrated properly, and most importantly, patiently.
09/14/17 --> 5 pm
I ignored these warnings. I first transferred the bag that the memantine came in into a small plastic container, and decided to clean the bag that the memantine came in with water, and I drank that water. When I later weighed 10 mg it was MUCH smaller than what I had originally thought. I then knew I was in for a trip. My only regret is that I don't know the dose at which I took it; this is vital information that would have helped me spread the message in a much more efficient way. Having said that, I can guesstimate that I took a dose of about 150-200 mg.
http://www.alzforum.org/news/research-news/mini-stroke-does-mega-damage-can-memantine-help
This study describes a rat that had an induced brain clot and it affected its ability to make decisions. When scientists injected the rat with memantine, the clot cleared up and the rat was fine again. Memantine is used for old people with Alzheimer's, a disease in which tiny blood vessels all around your brain get clots and affect your memory and shit. Many people with late stages don't even remember their own kids, it's so sad. But memantine is a drug that fights that- so you see, it's neuroprotective (protects the neurons in your brain) instead of most drugs which destroy the neurons in your brain.
At 6 or 7 pm it started hitting hard
Johnny, read this article in the morning. I am super fucked up but so proud of how much you've achieved under such stress and in such pain. Memantine, I believe, is the key to what you're looking for. At first, I would hyperfocus on everything (like with the Rick and morty episode, I was sucked into the world so fast). Anyways, my problem seems that I have TWO distinct demons - anxiety and inattention. I must research the chit out of those two things. But, that is nothing compared to physical pain. On memantine I felt almost no pain. NMDA antagonists are very helpful. With the help of memantine (my pain, OCD) maybe I can decrease the meds. I'd love to have no marijuana but that may not happen.
It seems I sober very quickly and acclimate to whatever the new activity is. Is reside in it 100%.
At 9 pm I felt it full force
I felt what TRUE LOVE feels like when I was with my girlfriend. She lets me be myself, but she calls me on shit. That is an important distinction. When we were flipping through instagram feeds and I felt moms beauty but dads smugness. We were just talking about beauty, anxiety, how beautiful people get anxiety, I started crying cause I was visualizing myself being young talking to the acting lady and she was like "you're good looking" but I didn't take it to heart. I let my demons and drugs drag me down. I need to be smart about it. If I'm going to control my anxiety (which is impossible for me to do without exercise and on the computer all day) without meds, fuh get it. Cause memantine works if you works it. And even right now I'm John’ing the shit outta my mind. I'm tripping but I'm Johnin the shit out of it. Done. I'm I literally just layed on my back, and said, "ok it's just you and me now John. No more anxiety. Why do you over analyze everything? I JUST ASKED MYSELF THAT! LLOLL. Look at "It" events. It being a celestial being.
Basically, you are getting older and will amount to only what you do and your history.
You are but a moment in time. Might as well help people along the way.
I want what Jobs had in the way that Steve Jobs had a vision for apple, and now that he's gone that vision is still afloat atop the wings of his trusted copilots.
09/15/17 --> 3:30 a.m.
I am so very clear on memantine. Gucci Mane just may be the smartest man alive. https://youtu.be/eJWS7JXLCBg
I also realized I am in no pain forgot to take my night time pain meds. How possible? Memantine. Hopefully it will get me the fuck off these other meds.
This is the perfect time to have gotten hurt. Some kid got signed because he got 1 million views on SoundCloud? I know I could do this. I am a masterClass marketer when I want to be. I can do it from home.
During this trip, in my cosmic "Gucci" trip, I've felt unnerving almost the entire time. I always wanted to be doing the thing after the thing I was doing. That's my life. The internet has turned that hellhole into a reality. Internet is an addiction and I have it. Goodnight.
I've come to the conclusion that the internet is cancer and can ruin your life if you give in to it
While listening to Shenmue radio- Maybe all of it - fame, money, fortune - I DO NOT NEED IT. All this trip has proven to me, is that tv, movies, books (basically all forms of entertainment) cannot produce me happiness. Happiness will be found through serenity, calm, peace. Peace. Joy. Music, but not by trap or rap or anything of that genre. Specifically, video game music. No lyrics, just landscapes.
Go to the beach more, feel the sand, smell the fresh air, this you must do.
Visit the places 23&me suggested. Stay sober (no weed). At all costs, try to keep weed out of the picture. You know it will ruin what you've layed the groundwork for. You met the woman. You have the degree. You have family. You have friends. Get health. Focus on your health. 👍🏻
You have a highly vivid imagination, so maybe one day directing or producing music and movies wouldn't be such a bad idea. But stop wasting so much time driving yourself insane by consuming their media, and create your own worlds in which you can thrive because, well, you made em. You love making. Always have. Do more of it. When did it stop?
Sexy Johnny, caring Christina, daring Dennis, magnificent Michael. Us 4.
Memantine has somehow unlocked incredible memory capabilities (rendering access to any part of my memories). It's cool, but I'm also nauseous and that's not. Goodnight
TBH fuck entertainment industry. You're a pretty FUCKING SMART guy. Always have been. The only thing that makes you dumb is the influence you give others over yourself. You've made guitar hooks (yellow card), predicted trends (china scoff crypto) but you still listen to others. Like the other day, when the stocks turned and tucker told you to buy? You should have shorted. You would've become rich. Fucking rich. Overaxagg Overexaggerate but you are fucking smart man. Look at the two images on your iPhone that explain the....... I just figured it out. Why I feel so dumb... my mind races 10000000 miles an hour, I have probably 5 interlapping thoughts at the same time, but that's what makes me brilliant.... I've always tried to stifle that, but because of that, I'm smart. So when I speak I need to be able to make others (and myself) comprehend what the fuck I'm even thinking. That's why I should journal, not for others, but for me to gather my thoughts and to put into focus the most important thoughts that count. Lovely. Kinda like “IT” is a celestial being and it needs the clown to be able to show to humans its form. If everyone thought like me, ... ahhh, that's why there's language. To convey thoughts. Well English is such a blhahhhh language. I need to be able to get my thoughts onto paper better.
Killer app idea. This is it. This is why you journal. To think of killer apps and memantine will make me rich and yes!!!!!!!!
....anyways, back to Tucker.... I just need to watch the news, and only the news, and listen for SIGNS. Follow your gut. Don't over analyze.
7 a.m.
14 hours since I took this shit, and I'm still in it pretty hard. The only reason I feel okay now is that I've become acclimated to this world. I feel so smart. I can make money and all this shit what the fuck? And my memory! Ohhhh. It's damn near perfect if it weren't for my upset stomach and the feeling of being high.
Ok. So I just found God.
In other words nostalgia can be described as a defense mechanism your mind uses to elevate your mood when it finds that you are not feeling that good. The more you become satisfied with your life the less nostalgia you will experience.
Now that I understand the massive power I have (the ability to take action) in my mind, there is no way this just came from nothing. Something HAD to have made my mind, my body - things like this don't just appear. Just as we're automating things in our computer (apps), God programmed us. It's an infinite loop that will never end. We might some day make other animals that have higher functions and understand them too....
Now that I understand all this, all I want is to make money so that I can travel the world with Este and my fam. For that, I need money. So, I want to understand money. I want to go into the financial sector.
I hope in my sober form I'll understand the trail that led to this realization.....
I'm both type A and B personalities infused into one. Fo sho.
Go back to the basics. Study with relaxing music, works a helluva lot better. MUCH! Maybe not the same classical Mozart shot, but try Shenmue Radio. Bed early, rise early, routine, etc. go back like you were back in college.
Also, I'm smart and all but there's lots of smart people. I have demons I'm fighting too. I can't make what I want happen with these demons in my head. I need to see a great psychologist to help with this. Great clinical psychologist!
It's like I have 31 years worth of thoughts trapped in this head. NO WEED!!!!!!!!!!!! That is an absolute must. Fuck the weed. No matter what. This is much much much much much better.
Also when I close my eyes I can't stop seeing IT. NO MORE HORROR MOVIES. I can't take em. Nothing bad. All good. I'm an everything addict. Nothing bad can go in this brain.
Maybe create some stuff to live on in eternity as well.
Bring your thoughts to completion. Allow the k-hole.
I was thinking about Jorge and how I felt so uncomfortable walking near him because I thought he didn't like me for whatever reason. What made it worse is I'm not big anymore so I scare easier, especially with people bigger than me. I followed this thought to completion and said, "well Johnny, the reason is probably because of your Dad when you were a child. You were always afraid he'd kick you out or hit you, so it carried in to other aspects." Also, when I text someone and they don't reply immediately, I think sometimes that they're never going to reply and that I lost a friend. This was also due to Dad - you just wanted his acceptance and it was very hard to get because of his temper and constantly had to walk on eggshells around him." Once I had these realizations, and I knew why I felt those anxieties, it was much easier to just accept and forget them. Knowing thyself is giving power you yourself.
Also, this website just allowed me to self-diagnose anxiety with memantine in about 30 seconds.
https://www.2knowmyself.com/i_feel_nostalgic_all_the_time
Now that I know what I know, I feel anytime watching anything other than the news is a waste of time.
Now that I'm lying here trying to sleep I'm having twisted thoughts like folding myself into halves like I'm Jerry from Rick and Morty season 3 ep 1 and cannot get It outa my head. It's laughing right now. In my head. If memantine is really an antagonist of Seratonin and an agonist of Dopamine, I may have to stop. I don't have social anxiety or ADHD anymore but this is certainly anxiety not helping my OCD.
The entertainment industry I think it's going to suck me back into a hole of never endingness, but I think were my true happiness or life is in academia. Also, when ask myself the question of what would I do if split between white or black family, who would I go with, looking at the black, I know I would have a lot more fun, but black fathers many times are not around. Rap today perpetuates this cycle by just singing about fucking other bitches other than their own girlfriends, which results in a kid not seeing their father. I keep connecting dots that end up being circular. Everything is circular. 
God every time I close my eyes all I seen or like torn up bodies and shit. No more bad movies or horror movies in my brain. Only good stuff.
React Native Progressive web apps is the future of apping. No one wants to download a bunch of apps to their phone with precious limited storage capabilities
I'm sitting here thinking about all the native iPhone experience I'm missing out on, but I can't stress enough how it is ruining my happiness. TEch is ruining my happiness. I think iphone may suck me in. I need to generalize and compartmentalism as much as possible.
The closed eyes visuals have been highly intense. I was forced to choose my own theme song as I was pushed in a GoT style set in a coffin on a wagon under a bridge, then I opened my eyes. Btw it was snowing. Now everything I even say the word "it" i get spooked. I'm so sensitive to everything man.
Man, just do whatever makes ya fuckin happy. That's why our ancestors immigrated here and all that shit. So that we could be happy. OR, I could keep the Calderaio future generations in mind and work to build a massive amount of wealth in their favor. Choices, choices....
I'm back to the choices again (do what makes me happy), but now picking that apart. Need. A. Psychiatrist.
Also, I'm starting to learn that watching the market is all about reading the history. "Looking into ONE companies records for the past “x amount“ of years will tell you what you need to know, along with the news. And Reddit. Watch day trader Reddit. That's perfect. High risk (nothin to lose) high reward). You can't be the one to follow the herd tho. If the herds doing it, then it won't make you money. You have to make your own decisions. You're smart, you got it figured out man. Proud of you bud 👍🏻
 O God damn do I have OCD. Even from telephone ring my girlfriends parrot keeps singing it and it repeating in my head over and over, and over..... yeah. It's OCD. For sure. Social anxiety and ADHD are byproducts, but the main demon is OCD. I keep replaying that farmers only song in my head over and over and over. “You don’t have to be lonely, at Farmers only ,com”. What a dumb website, but a catchy jingle - which has been playing in my mind almost the entire trip. Just like obsessively finding phrases. Man. I now know. Why “IT” and images I don't want keep popping in my head.
With Estefania I have that" grow old" love.
If things work, magnify them and use them more. If they don't, then cut it off.
6:45 pm
Now that it's 6:45 and I'm on a lower dose of memantine I can concentrate on the task at hand without too much interruption from the outside world. It KILLS my social anxiety. Like, buh bye. But the OCD aspect makes it hard to not obsess over everything now that no anxiety is in the way to stop me. I'm a diff person with people. I think before I speak, I'm thoughtful, kind, intelligent, interesting.... I do need to work on my conflict resolution skills tho. Honestly I don't know where one anxiety ends and the other begins. Why can I now speak freely and intelligently in front of people, but I still cannot focus on one task at hand? Not sure.
9:30 pm
I just played guitar in the bathroom and it sounded insanely awesome. I used my trademark off the cuff singing style (like freestyle guitaring) and it was fucking awesome. Some dope ass shit. Just do what makes you happy. And THAT made me very happy. To be free of social anxiety and singing that? Awesome. Weed will fuck your social anxiety up again. You know it. Is it worth it? I don't think so.
09/16/17 --> 1 a.m.
I honestly feel, 30 hours later, that I have unlocked the matrix. I feel like memantine has blocked out the noise - it's unlocked parts of my brain that I knew were always there, but I never had access to because of anxieties or ADHD or whatever you want to cal “IT” (I jokingly refer all bad things to “IT” now because the clown plagued my entire trip and I constantly had to feed positive things to myself so I wouldn't see images of IT. Some fucked up shit for sure, but I learned about investing, money, happiness, pain, beauty, and more, all in the last few days with memantine
I really put my parents through hell with all the drunk driving accidents. Imagine hearing that your child has crashed his car, and even worse, into someone else. To have to be subjugated to that so many times must have been torture for then.
3:00 a.m. At hour 32 I downloaded an Artificial Intelligence book that I had every intention of reading straight through the night, but I was tired and fell asleep.
2:44 pm
I woke up this morning to horrible pain. Not nerve pain, but muscle. It felt as if I had been beaten with a bat. I was still able to talk to Este and recall the Eminem/Kim drama story I had read the night before with relative ease, and I could also still conscientiously talk to Jake without anxiety and choose my words based on what I wanted to say and not on what I thought he wanted to hear (like I usually do because of my social anxiety). Jake said he missed me in the text, and Tucker said the same when we texted the morning before. This was huge, being that I hadn't been able to form strong social connections in the last few years since my injury. This, I think, is the lowest half-life dose of memantine that I could handle, but maybe the best long term.
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2017.03.25 04:55 indrarach Guys, it's hard to quit porn addiction if you have these beliefs..*no clickbait*

Recently, I study about porn addiction and how our brain works so I can quit this addiction for good. I realize that it's so damn hard to quit by merely using willpower, like for real. I usually only abstaining maximum 5-7 days by relying on willpower and it feels too heavy.
But, fortunately, I have read one of the 'tool' that really beneficial to us to quit this addiction which is.. KNOWING YOUR FALSE BELIEFS (mindset) about porn and shit. Here goes nothing:
1) Masturbation releases sexual frustation
I'm not gonna lie, but yes it is. BUT it's only for FEW MINUTES! Afterwards, our sexual desire will fully restored depends on many factors (testosterone, hot pics) in few minutes or hours. After all, if we really believe that masturbation could release sexual frustation, why the f*ck are we sometimes masturbate in more than once in a day?
2) Watching porn reduces sexual desire
THIS IS BIG. I told you, this is big false belief. Actually, though, porn increase our sexual desires. Because NOVELTY is the game changer of porn. New videos, new girls, new categories bla bla bla.. This is why porn addiction is about finding new stuff that you haven't seen before. The more new stuff, the more your brain feels the rush and exciting emotions and it will buried inside your mind that whenever you feels bored, sad, depressed, you run into porn.
I'm really sure that we all have favorite video and then for a while, that video becomes boring and feels nothing. What happened here is that the brain is get used to certain amount of dopamine so it needs more dopamine (by searching new girl, new categories, more extreme) to get stimulated and feel rush like the first time. Also, watching porn makes our mind more thinking about it and it increases the chance of getting back to porn. In conclusion, watching porn increases our sexual desire instead of diminishing it or release it.
3) My body needs to get rid of the extra semen
F*cking lie! Our body is designed to release the semen by itself by wet dreams. So many of us mistakenly think that unless we releases the semen through masturbation, health problems might occurs and sexual frustation might occur as well. In fact, our body has the reproductive mechanism that keeps our reproductive organs working properly eventhough we don't masturbate.
Actually there are other false beliefs that we have instead of these three, but I will share with you with next post very soon, guys. I hope this helps a little bit for y'all!
Source: 2knowmyself.com
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2016.11.21 12:27 justanothersoloplaye Rules of the subconscious

I was reading a comment/reply made by anima173 about the subconscious and it incited me to read about the subconscious, and i found this :

Rules of the Subconscious Mind

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2016.09.25 14:23 HereWeGo56 "In-depth" Tips to build a real self confidence. Because "be positive" and "dress well" aren't going to do it, at least not permanently.

Hello everybody.
Building self confidence isn't as simple as dressing nicely or joining a gym. Although it's not so complicated, still it's not that simple.
Unfortunately most of the tips that you can find are talking about things that won't really help those who are really struggling with low self confidence.
Why? Because many of them are superficial. Self confidence tips like “dress well” “exercise” or “think positively” aren’t going to help someone who suffers from lack of self-confidence because of deeper issues. Plus, they don’t really talk about real and solid self-confidence. They, the tips, dabble on the surface of the self confidence and character strength.
That's why I've recently written an article with the hope of creating something that's deep enough to help almost everyone struggling with self confidence. It's a huge list of 25 tips. A huge article with 6000 words, but it's worth it. It's a full guide that will be there for anybody who need help with self confidence and self-esteem.
Why I believe it's going to help you? Because it covers a lot of angles. Here's what it talks about:
1 *The basics:** just basic stuffs about self confidence. Plus few fundamental things that you need to do. 2 *The underlying reasons:** here we talk about some of the stuffs that may cause you to lose self confidence, and how to deal with them. 3 *Dealing with people:** includes insights into how to communicate effectively with people in order to build, and keep, self confidence. 4 *The building bricks:** those are practical tips that you can apply to boost your self confidence.
Maybe I'm biased and a little bit arrogant, but away from that, I'm pretty sure that somehow this is going to help someone out there more than the superficial tips that won't ever result in real and solid self confidence.
Now, I'm going to share with you few tips right here, obviously I can't put all the 6000 words here, after that I'm going to leave a link to the article so you can see all the tips. Sounds good?
Let's get started
1. Know thyself:
Here’s a technique that will help you boost your self-confidence.
It’s based on the total elimination of the opinions of others. To do that you need to know your strength and weakness points.
Get a piece of paper and write a list for both, your strength and weakness.
All the traits that you like about yourself, and don’t tell me that there isn’t, be fair, everyone has good traits.
If you can’t think of any, ask those who you trust and those who are close to you and those who really love you. They will surprise you with some cool stuffs.
Also write a list for the things that you consider weakness, but don’t go too wild here (we’re going to talk about inner critic in seconds), just to remind you of what you can improve. After all, we’re just humans and we have weakness no matter how strong we are.
Spend as much time as you need to create those two lists.
Now you know who you are. Whenever someone, especially a stranger or a hater, tries to define you, look at your lists and see if it’s true or not. If yes, it won’t hurt that much. If no, just disregard the comment.
Just note that your weakness points don’t necessary reflect your flaws, they’re fields for improvement and proofs that you’re a human.
Before you start creating your lists, make sure you read the rest of this list to do that correctly without labeling yourself.
The credit for this technique goes to Farouk from 2knowmyself.com
2. Keep a journal of the things that you’re proud of:
When you get knocked down, it’s really hard to see the good side, and it’s pretty easy to focus on all the negative stuffs. Your negative thoughts will breed more negative thoughts.
For example, when you feel insecure, you’ll forget about all the times that you’ve felt confident before. and you may label yourself as an insecure person who had done some great things, instead of a confident person who feels insecure sometime as a result of being a human.
I’ve experienced this many times. I feel bad about myself and I immediately dismiss all the good things that I’ve done in the past.
So, whenever you do something that you’re proud of, write it down. Open a new note on your phone and write what you’ve done and how you feel about yourself as a result.
When you feel down, those notes can help a lot. When your negative self-talk and inner critic take over, you’ll be supported by those notes.
When you feel insecure, remember the times that you’ve felt really confident and you were able to conquer harder situations. Not to stop feeling insecure at the time, but to not let this temporary insecurity to ruin your self confidence. Your hard-earned self confidence.
3. Nobody is confident all the time:
Nobody, period! I don’t care who he/she is.
Including you and I.
Nobody can be confident all the time, we all have our ups and downs, we all have times when we feel disappointed and sad, we all go through tough situations.
I’m telling you this so that you don’t judge yourself harshly when you start building your confidence, there will be “off days”.
Also people have different levels of self confidence on different ares. Someone can be confident talking to a stranger but uncomfortable giving a presentation.
Self confidence is not constant, it can change from time to time and from a situation to another.
Yes aim to be better by closing the gaps that you find in your self confidence, but remember, you can’ be perfect here as well.
4. People are not super-humans:
Many people when they communicate with others they think that they’re interacting with superman or spiderman or something.
They think that those they’re interacting with don’t feel bad, don’t feel insecure, always confident, don’t have their down times, don’t have problems, immune to pain, can fly and probably have a sword somewhere in their closet.
In other words, they put them on a pedestal, and they look down at themselves.
Look, those people you see around you everyday, even the most confident ones, aren’t super-humans. They feel bad sometimes, they feel insecure just like you sometimes, they have their own share of pain, they have their own problems, fears, aspirations, hopes, disappointments, regrets, glory moments and tears.
They make mistakes too. They don’t like rejection and even fear it. And some of them are afraid of you just as much as you’re afraid of them.
We’re all humans. No one is perfect nor a super-human. So, that confident guy you feel small around him is just a human like you, with ups and downs, rights and wrongs, confidence and insecurities.
5. Don’t assume anything:
Your thoughts and beliefs about yourself govern your perception and how you interpret the things around you.
That’s why you need to stop assuming anything while working on building self confidence. And even after you build it sometimes, so that you can keep it.
I’ll give you an example. Assuming that the guy who is always quiet around you, and just gives you weird looks, hate you. Assuming that those guys who were sitting there talking and looking at you were talking about how ugly and unconfident you look like.
Stop those assumptions. That guy who you think hate you could be shy. He could be anxious. He could be just quite and doesn’t like to talk a lot. Or he might has no opinion of you at all.
Those guys who were whispering to each others could’ve been talking about how you look like somebody they know. They could’ve been talking about something that isn’t related to you at all.
Why pick up the worst scenario?
In short, next time someone ignores you or treats you kind of badly, stop your wild thoughts right there and don’t assume anything at all. Many reasons that are unrelated to you will be filtered in the process, and that will destroy your self confidence even further.
6. Solve your biggest life’s problem/problems:
I’ll say it again, helplessness is one of the worst enemies to your self confidence.
When you feel like you can’t solve a big life problem that you’re facing, your self confidence will suffer.
Also, usually, your biggest life’s problem are related to things that are very important to you. As a result when you be able to solve them, not only your confidence levels will go up, but also your happiness levels as well.
Examples for those big problems: your body shape, your financial situations, your social skills, an addiction you’re suffering from …etc.
You might think that one of your biggest life’s problems is lack of self-confidence, but usually your lack of self confidence can come from those other big problems that you’re facing in your life.
Trust me, start working on solving your biggest life’s problems and you’ll experience not only increased self-confidence, but also relief, satisfaction, happiness and improved quality of life as well.
But remember that to do that effectively you need to be able to handle emotional pain…
7. Learn to manage your negative and uncomfortable emotions:
I’m talking about emotions like depression, sadness, fear, general discomfort, frustration, disappointment …etc.
While many self development sites want to tell you how to get rid of those emotions, I believe that we just can’t do that. We can’t get rid of them. Rather, we need to learn how to manage them.
Anyway, we’re not here to discuss that. We’re here to talk about how managing those emotions will help you boost your self confidence.
Managing those emotions will result in making you a stronger person. That in turn will affect your self confidence in a positive way. Being able to handle fearful, stressful, and tough situations will build not only your self confidence, but also your character.
8. Learn about BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder):
Some people lack self confidence because they think that they’re ugly.
More than 90% of girls -15 to 17- want to change at least one aspect of their appearance, obese boys and girls have significantly lower self- esteem than their peers, and more than half teenage girls are, or think they should be, on diets.
And even though statistics suggest that it’s a bigger problem for girls, still many guys are also losing their self esteem because they hate their physical appearance.
So, if you think that you’re ugly or unattractive, and lack confidence because of that, you first need to know that you’re not alone at all.
Second, you need to know that there’s a big possibility that your looks are just fine. You won’t believe me, I know. But you might believe scientist and psychology.
There’s a disorder that’s called BDD and it makes people actually look in the mirror and see an ugly person regardless of how they look like, even if they are gorgeous. Some celebrities suffer from, at least, symptoms of this disorder.
Now, I’m not here to diagnose anyone. I’m only suggesting that if you hate your looks, sometimes think you look find and other times not, having people tell you that you look fine but you don’t believe them …etc, then reading about this BDD thing can be very helpful.
Don’t let your mind deceive you.
Here are some good and reliable resources to learn about BDD:
*1 Body Dysmorphic Disorder: A Brief Psychological Overview
*2 Do You Have BDD?
*3 Illusions and “Troubled Senses” of Body Dysmorphic Disorder
*4 What Causes Imagined Ugliness?
9. Control you inner critic:
We all have that sound inside of us that’s telling us that we’re not good enough.
To be honest with you, the “inner critic” is a board subject, and I’m still researching it to really understand this a**hole living inside of us and whose sole mission is to make us feel bad about ourselves.
Is there’s a positive intention behind his actions? Maybe improvement? I don’t really know.
When I know I’ll share that with you. For now, I think some of the tips in this article and few more will help you out dealing with this harsh inner critic:
*1 Remember the first point about “know thyself”?: whenever you find yourself saying to yourself stuffs that aren’t on your list, stop. That’s your inner critic talking. Whenever you find yourself doubting the good things on your list and amplifying the bad ones, it’s your inner critic taking over.
*2 Talk to him/her as another person who lives inside of you: give him a funny name, and whenever he starts criticizing you, call him with that name and tell him to cut the crap. Un-identifying yourself from him can be a good idea.
*3 You don’t have to always shut him off, but never believe him: he’s an immature version of you. Don’t believe his words. And when you’re feeling really down, it’s normal to find him jumping all over your head and labeling you. Don’t believe a word that he says.
There you go. Those are 9 tips of the whole 25 tips. They are not in order, in the article they are organized into 4 categories as mentioned above: the basics, the underlying reasons, dealing with people and the building bricks.
Here's a link to the article: How to be confident: 25 In-depth tips that do work
Hope you like it. Hope you find it useful.
I'm open to criticism, constructive criticism to be exact, and I would love to hear your opinions or if you would like to discuss a point or add few more points.
All the best :)
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2016.07.31 16:45 NoFappingHere2016 Fapping almost completely destroyed me

I just want to say that this community is great. If you're thinking of giving into your urges to fap, STOP RIGHT THERE. Let me tell you why it is extremely important that you stop fapping, especially if you are in a relationship with someone you love - if you want to have a great relationship, don't fap and save your sex energy for your gf.
Firstly, fapping drains your energy. When you orgasm, your brain releases several chemicals that relax you. While this is good if you want to feel very temporary relaxation, it will also suck the motivation out of you.
Secondly, fapping and porn WILL LOWER YOUR SELF-ESTEEM. Low self-esteem is the way to the dark side and can lead to jealousy and becoming toxic in a relationship.
Thirdly, fapping is often used as a crutch for other problems in your life because it provides temporary fix to feel distracted/relaxed - but it is actually playing havok on your brains rewards centres if you're fapping all the time. You need to fix the underlying problem if you want to be the best you can be for yourself, your gf, and everyone in your life - but you first need to stop fapping.
Now, fapping too much almost completely destroyed my relationship with my significant other who I've been with for 5 years. I love her with all of my heart but I used fapping as a crutch during a time of hardship when I was starting my business and dealing with the anxiety of this. My gf and I don't live together yet otherwise this might be a different story - some might laugh, but fapping as a software dev literally killed my motivation and ability to process through code in ways unimaginable. I was starting my own dev. business and working on a few projects, but being alone at the computer gave me ample time to stumble upon porn/fap sometimes multiple times a day. After each time, I noticed it was harder to think through code for a good 5 to 10 hours after. In fact, after fapping I was also always more irritable and easily annoyed in ways I never am before fapping. So a lot of the time, after fapping, I would just put my programming work off until the next day, then again, next day, same thing - until before you know it, I'm only putting in a few hours of work each day for months and months. Likewise, because I felt irritable and annoyed after fapping, it sometimes led to arguments with my gf and ppl in my life since fapping for some reason causes me to temporarily have low patience for anything.
Now it almost destroyed my relationship because the excessive masturbation and porn made me have very low self-esteem. This in combination with now having very poor work ethic from fapping and feeling stuck because my software projects aren't moving very fast due to fapping and lack of motivation resulting, made my self-esteem tank. With low self-esteem, jealousy in a relationship can quickly set in - especially if your gf is a dental school student, which mine is. I started to get very jealous for no fault of my gf, she is always very honest, gentle, true, and pure and extremely loyal - to the point she would avoid talking to any guy because she was worried I would get jealous - but I shouldn't have been like that to begin with! I should have trusted, but the low-self esteem took a huge toll on me and in turn, a huge toll on her because jealousy is very poisonous and toxic. She said that I was lowering her self-esteem and that is when my heart broke and I realized I need to make some big changes in my life to get back on track.
When I never used to fap more than once a week, my relationship was healthy. I had energy and drive. I had a zeal for life that really inspired not only me, but the ppl around me - which is why I was able to attract such a beautiful gf who will soon be a dentist. But overfapping drained me, I was no longer being as affectionate as I could be to my gf, no longer going out of my way to make her feel special, and so the relationship suffered. A relationship needs constant love, affection, words of affirmation, acts of kindness, and commitment - but I wasn't doing this very much because I was just drained from fapping all the time.
After seeing how I've hurt my relationship and also really wasted so much time in my life with fapping, to the point of financial strain, I am putting an end to fapping. I am at the 7 day mark and already feel a lot better. My brain fog is gone, I feel a lot more motivated, and it is so much easier to love my gf and give her the love and attention she deserves and craves. With that said, I keep getting a damn annoying boner for the smallest of things - but I have to believe in myself that fapping right now is not healthy for me and that my body is shared between me and my gf, not me and the internet/porn/my hand.
Anyway, don't fap if you want a healthy relationship with your gf. Save your body for you and her, and fap together or just have sex together. Fapping alone takes away your energy, and denies you having shared experiences together sexually. These shared experiences build your relationship up and are the basis of having a continued loving relationship.
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2016.02.21 11:05 HereWeGo56 Is it Bad to Enjoy Being Alone More Than Being With People? (4 possible answers)

Extroverts and introverts, the ultimate debate!
Although many people aren’t totally extroverts or totally introverts, something in between.
In fact this article has nothing to do with extroverts or introverts!
This article is for those who are wondering if it’s a bad thing to enjoy being alone more than being with people.
Sometimes you enjoy being alone more than hanging out with others, you just love it, and you start to avoid social situations to spend more time with yourself.
And sometimes you start to feel guilty about it.
Is it really a bad thing? Am I being anti-social? Or maybe people are just idiots?!
This kind of questions can’t be answered by a simple yes or no, we have to dig deeper into the roots of the behavior to figure out what’s going on.
You see, people are different, and situations are also different, we need to take that into consideration while answering the question of this article.
That’s why we’re going to explore many reasons for why people enjoy being alone more than socializing and just hanging around.
As you read, make sure to see if you can relate to any of these reasons.
Along with each reason we’re going to discuss, I’m going to give you some suggestions to deal with it, so you get the most out of your “alone” time and “with people” time.
Ready? Let’s get started.
Reasons you enjoy being alone more than being with people
Remember that situations are different, and you can have different reasons for your behavior in each different interaction.
Reasons #1: You just don’t enjoy the company
Sometimes it’s as simple as that, you don’t enjoy being with certain people.
Maybe you don’t have many interests in common, and maybe you have many conflict ideas or beliefs.
And if your brain isn’t convinced that you’re going to have a good time around that person/those people, it won’t motivate you to go there and hang out.
This usually happens with the people who live near to you, family members and so on.
People you didn’t choose, they were just there around you.
Sometimes you have totally different ideas, beliefs and interests, and staying around people who don’t share your core ideas is not exciting.
Suggestions:
Always remember that you can’t have this reason for your entire social circle, and you can’t avoid all the social interactions just because of it.
Sure maybe you don’t enjoy being around specific people, but there must be some other people who you enjoy being around.
Make sure that you find those people who share similar ideas with you, and don’t worry, they're exist!
And they don’t have to be 100% like you, for example one of my best friends and I have some similarities and also many conflicts.
Now even if you don’t have that many common interests, if you share some common interests and you feel comfortable with the other person, you can share something personal with that person.
Sharing is the best way to deepen your relationship with any person, as you share something personal, you will become closer to that person.
But you need to be careful about this one, you can’t just share anything with anybody, over sharing is not a good thing.
Also you shouldn’t be deceived by people who sound trustworthy at the first sight; you need to make sure you’re putting your secrets in a safe place.
And sometimes the problem is “group conversation”, many people can find this boring as we’re going to discuss below.
Reason #2: your mind is deceiving you!
Yes, your brain can do that, it can make you think that you only enjoy being alone.
As you’ve already guessed, your brain is doing that to keep you safe.
For example if you feel very anxious around people and act awkwardly, your brain can make you avoid the social situations all together in order to avoid these painful feelings.
And the best way to do that without hurting your ego would be to claim that you’re not interested in people at all!
The only way around this one is to muster up some courage and face the truth!
And it’s not that hard, you can overcome shyness, you can develop your social skills, it’s not a rocket science, but the first step is to acknowledge it.
Below you can find some useful resources that can help you out with this, make sure you check them out.
Suggestions:
Your problem right now is not that you enjoy being alone, the real problem here is shyness and avoiding social situations.
So, you need to focus on building your self confidence and your social skills.
Take the time and check these resources, I'm sure they will help you out:
5 Studies (With Case-Study) that will help you become more social
Overcome Shyness - Psychology Today
What Are Social Skills?
Don’t fake Who You are: Be who You are
30 Tricks You Can Steal From Social Butterflies for Approaching Anyone - Self Stairway
Transform Your Confidence By Learning To Approach New People
The Right Way To Approach A Girl or A Guy
How To Talk To People (Video)
How To Overcome Social Anxiety - Backed up By Research (Video also)
Reason #3: you’re going through tough times
Sometimes the reason you don’t want to be around people is that you’re feeling down and going through some challenges.
And that’s totally normal.
During your down times, you just don’t feel like being around people that much, it doesn’t mean that you’re “anti-social” or something.
In fact, it can make you a stronger person, because you do want to spend time with yourself and figure things out.
Don’t go too hard on yourself during your down times, it’s normal to feel like you don’t want to be around anybody, it doesn’t make you shy or anti-social.
Sure you don’t feel like being around people and socialize, but there will be people who you would like to spend more time with during these tough days, like your best friends, spouse or your partner.
Suggestions:
Go for it!
My advice here is to embrace this time as much as possible, spend more time with yourself to sort things out.
And don’t feel bad about yourself because you’re being "anti-social" during your down times, it’s a chance to re-discover yourself.
You want to use that time to work on a solution, to sort things out, that’s the key point.
Take a look at this article, it will help you to spend time with yourself more efficiently: (1 Tip to Increase Productivity (and happiness)
Sure you don’t want to be all alone; you can still get help from you closed friends, get an advice or just share your feelings with them.
When I go through some tough times, I usually spend most of the time alone, and the rest of the time I spend it with some of my closest friends.
Reason #4: group conversations and small talks
Most of the time, group conversation is useless, just gossip and sarcasm.
You don't get any value or get the opportunity to communicate your thoughts, your deepest thoughts. Group conversations rarely make you a better person.
And also small talks are …small! There’s no real value or real deep communication, and many smart people hate small talks.
Because usually these kinds of talks are superficial, you don’t really communicate on a deeper level with another human being.
However, they’re important, maybe they’re not the best way to really communicate with others on a deeper level, but they get you on the door and give you the chance to communicate with someone on the deep level that you want.
You can't just meet someone right away and be like "this is my darkest secret (.....), what is yours??!!"
You need that small talks to start the relationship with those new people you meet, whether you like small talks or not.
Suggestions:
It’s very normal that you hate group conversations and small talks, there’s nothing wrong with that.
For the group conversations, while you can sit with a large group of people (from 6-15), just don’t do it a lot, you have two options:
Spend less time with them, for example only one hour and then you leave.
Or you can hang out less with groups, once a week for example.
While sitting with a group of people, you can sit near somebody that you can have a deep conversation with him/her, while also engaging with the rest of the group.
For small talks, it’s not a big issue at all; in fact I think it’s very important if used well.
Use small talks to get closer to new people, you just can’t stumble upon someone and become best friends, that’s very rare.
You need small talks to get closer to the new people you meet, just consider it as something you need to communicate with acquaintances who can turn into friends.
Conclusion
Enjoying being alone can be a good thing or a bad thing, it depends on the reasons.
In this article we discussed 4 reasons for why you can hate being around people, with suggestion to get the most out of your communication with people and with yourself.
As they say, you either change you perception or your behavior, and that’s exactly what we talked about here.
Some of these reasons are aimed to change your perception and others are aimed to change your behavior.
Examine these reasons and see if you can relate to any of them.
Sometimes in each different situation you can relate to a different reason, keep that in mind.
Don’t just judge yourself (or the people) before you know the root behind a certain behavior.
*This originally appeared on SelfChanging.com
Now share your thoughts down here, do you enjoy being with yourself? which reasons you can relate to more? and what suggestion you can add to help people more?
Speak your mind :D
All the best.
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2016.01.28 02:50 onASojurnForPeace How do I start dating again? (crosspost from r/Anxiety)

I've been having trouble talking to my friends about this, and family, and barely my therapist, so forgive me if I'm sparing about the details.
Right now I'm having some serious trouble getting back into dating. There are a lot of reason for it: trying to find a job, low self-esteem, general anxiety, depression. But lately it's gotten so bad I'm starting to go from anxious to actually frightened of approaching a girl I find attractive.
It's gotten to the point where I'm having trouble even looking at any woman I find pleasing to the eye; I watched an episode of Agent Carter this morning and it was almost torture. Seriously, it's absurd.
I know I'm a good bf, not bad looking, and when I'm myself I can be charming, but right now I feel...toxic. Not just unlovable but someone who needs to be kept away from females in general.
This goes way beyond anything I've experienced in the past. Any advice?
And thanks for listening.
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2016.01.28 02:00 onASojurnForPeace How do I start dating again? (crosspost from r/Anxiety)

I've been having trouble talking to my friends about this, and family, and barely my therapist, so forgive me if I'm sparing about the details.
Right now I'm having some serious trouble getting back into dating. There are a lot of reason for it: trying to find a job, low self-esteem, general anxiety, depression. But lately it's gotten so bad I'm starting to go from anxious to actually frightened of approaching a girl I find attractive.
It's gotten to the point where I'm having trouble even looking at any woman I find pleasing to the eye; I watched an episode of Agent Carter this morning and it was almost torture. Seriously, it's absurd.
I know I'm a good bf, not bad looking, and when I'm myself I can be charming, but right now I feel...toxic. Not just unlovable but someone who needs to be kept away from females in general.
This goes way beyond anything I've experienced in the past. Any advice?
And thanks for listening.
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2016.01.27 21:03 onASojurnForPeace How do I start dating again? (crosspost from r/Explainlikeimscared)

I've been having trouble talking to my friends about this, and family, and barely my therapist, so forgive me if I'm sparing about the details.
Right now I'm having some serious trouble getting back into dating. There are a lot of reason for it: trying to find a job, low self-esteem, general anxiety, depression. But lately it's gotten so bad I'm starting to go from anxious to actually frightened of approaching a girl I find attractive.
It's gotten to the point where I'm having trouble even looking at any woman I find pleasing to the eye; I watched an episode of Agent Carter this morning and it was almost torture. Seriously, it's absurd.
I know I'm a good bf, not bad looking, and when I'm myself I can be charming, but right now I feel...toxic. Not just unlovable but someone who needs to be kept away from females in general.
This goes way beyond anything I've experienced in the past. Any advice?
And thanks for listening.
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2016.01.27 20:39 onASojurnForPeace ELIS: How do I start dating again?

I've been having trouble talking to my friends about this, and family, and barely my therapist, so forgive me if I'm sparing about the details.
Right now I'm having some serious trouble getting back into dating. There are a lot of reason for it: trying to find a job, low self-esteem, general anxiety, depression. But lately it's gotten so bad I'm starting to go from anxious to actually frightened of approaching a girl I find attractive.
It's gotten to the point where I'm having trouble even looking at any woman I find pleasing to the eye; I watched an episode of Agent Carter this morning and it was almost torture. Seriously, it's absurd.
I know I'm a good bf, not bad looking, and when I'm myself I can be charming, but right now I feel...toxic. Not just unlovable but someone who needs to be kept away from females in general.
This goes way beyond anything I've experienced in the past. Any advice?
And thanks for listening.
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2016.01.24 01:43 cardboard_cape How to request website removal?

So I come across the web domain 2knowmyself.com while searching for a solution to a very intimate problem. I read my Google hit article and found interesting enough to prompt further research here. Towards the end it started promoting its own books, which is fair (it is their site after all). The last paragraph explained how they are doing it differently, easy to use with up-to-date scientific research and have the reviews to prove it. I scroll down a bit. Want to overcome bad habits? Check. Want to develop good habits? Check. Check check check. Want to develop superpowers? Mmm. The tools scientific research has provided us for bettering ourselves makes it possible. Worth checking. Horseshit. All of it. He even starts with the disclaimer stating they claim no responsibility on your “evil” use of the ability to completely control someone, Buy clicking Agree&Buy you sign a digital waiver. Want me to pinky promise? I can now “cast” psychological spells as well as “Using words to let people obey you”. I think my boss have done this course. I click on Affiliates to see who would actually want to be seen with this asshole. But wait! There’s more! If you can shovel this shit to people on your webpage you a get a hefty 25% commission! He operates out of Egypt on this .com domain (media channel interviews, address and copyright registration all there), selling his shitty advice to the gullible and desperate. I feel a certain ethical responsibility to aid in the removal of this bullshit site from the internet. So, I report him or approach anonymous?
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2015.09.12 10:31 HereWeGo56 5 Steps To Change Your Life (Article+Infographic)

To get the most out of this article (and the Infographic below) you need to consider the fact that you've been searching for a way to make your life better, and that's a great thing.
And I also assume that you're not expecting to find a magical solution in this article that will change your life in one minute, instead you'll find real knowledge that if applied correctly, will lead to the desired results.
Good news And Bad news
If you want to change your life then I've got some news for you, good news and bad news.
The good news: changing your life is very simple process! The bad news: it’s not easy, it’s hard!! What does that mean? OK let me explain.
on your way to reach anything of value you’re going to face so many obstacles, disappointments, rejections and even failures, things that are out of your control will show up, all that plus the battle inside of you because it’s been too long but yet you haven’t seen any results, and also because on so many days you won’t feel like it at all.
in other words the journey from where you are to where you want to be isn’t a walk in the park, it’s like if you want something great then you have to earn it, you have to pay the price, and that’s why only few people live life the way they want to live it.
How to change your life?
So after this long introduction, let’s get into it, how to change your life? The first thing you need to realize is the fact above (simple but hard), remember that although it’s simple, it’s not going to be easy, it’s going to be worth it, after that you need to learn how to deal with the hardships that will come your way, how to deal with these hardships? You change your mindset, they say that success (or failure) is 80% your mindset and 20% the mechanisms.
you can take a look at the infographic it from
the source article
(sorry, I couldn't get it in a better way)
Steps to change your life:
1.Define A and B: you have to know exactly where you are and where you want to be, that’s the first step and the most important one.
Sit down, get a piece of paper and write that, where you are honestly? Don’t make it better and don’t make it worse, and also don’t let you pride stand on your way, we can’t change what we don’t acknowledge.
Then after that write where you want to be, really where you want to be and forget about the limitations, write as if you can do anything, in other words you need to create a vision for your life, just answer this question as if you can do anything: how do you want your ideal day to be like?
Please note that this step is a must, it’s the essential step and you can’t skip it, we need a sense of clarity about where we are and where we want to be, otherwise we will get paralyzed.
2.Create a drive:
Now you need to create some drive inside of you, and when i say drive i mean that power that pulls you to the life that you want, that passion and desire inside of you, and don't worry, you don't need to be Steve jobs to have passion and drive, let me give you some guidelines:
1) Accept the fact that your life is %100 your responsibility, no body is coming to save you.
2) Go and see how the person you want to be lives his life, and instead of envying him for it, think about how you can live that you too.
3) Watch motivational videos, they're a great way to charge up and fuel your motivation.
4) Watch inspiring movies](http://www.2knowmyself.com/top_10_motivational_and_inspirational_movies).
5) Just sit down and think about how bad do you really want that kind of life, and then think about how bad it's to stay the same and not change anything, where you're going to be a year from now if you didn't change anything? how will it feel, be honest.
3.Learn: It may sound weird, but you need some knowledge to draw the map from point A to point B, if you want to change your body shape you need to learn about fitness and healthy food, if you want to raise your children then you need to learn about children.
In other words you need a map to get from A to B, you can draw it or you can find an existing one, and most of the time you can find an existing one, there are certain ways to lose or gain weight, certain ways to create a wealth, certain ways to get certain results, learn about them and apply them.
And this is not really that hard these days, you can use google, you can download books, buy books, attend seminars or just find a wise mentor online or offline, you can find what you need if you really want to look for it.
4.Persistence: persistence is a mind-set in the first place, and it simply means to take actions consistently, no matter how small they are, you need to work on your body daily, you need to work on your business daily, you need to work on it every single day, and it doesn't matter the amount of the work, what matters is that it’s done consistently.
Also note that you have to measure whether the actions you’re are on the right direction or not, you can’t get 9 by adding 10 to 1, foolish consistency is ignorance.
the bottom line is: take daily actions that will get you closer to your goal every single day, and measure whether they produce results or not, if they don't you take different actions, but you NEVER stop taking actions.
5.Know that it takes time: it takes time to change your body shape, it takes time to create a successful business, it takes time to time to raise a happy family, it takes time to create a masterpiece and it takes time to change your life.
we all want the results now, but that’s not how it works, you won’t change your life’s conditions overnight, you need time, time plus actions can overcome all the obstacles, and one last thing to remember is that time will pass anyway, why not spend it working on changing our lives instead of letting it pass just like that?
The bottom line is: you must be patient, you take actions and work on it everyday, knowing that it will take weeks, moths or maybe even years to create that specific result you're after, but it's going to be worth it, and you're going to regret it if you stopped.
Now what?
I would be lying to you if i said that this article is all you need to change your life, in this article you can find the steps that you can take to begin the journey of change, because you need to start somewhere anyway, that's the first step.
This article gives you the map you need to follow, but it won't make your journey smooth, it won't make it easy and it won't even make you strong enough to handle the journey!!
I gave you the directions, where to turn and when to turn, but you're the only one who has to walk on your road to change, it's your journey, your life and your gift, make something special out of it :)
Please share your thoughts with us
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2015.08.13 15:16 HereWeGo56 I'm A Failure: How To Never Say It Again

Feeling like you’re a failure is not a nice emotion, it sucks, it feels like you’re at the bottom of the world, totally forgotten and not worthy of anything.
This article will be your home whenever you feel like you’re a “failure” or something, because we’ll talk about why we sometimes feel like we’re failures, where these feelings are coming from and how to recover from these feelings and feel strong and successful.
First of all, let’s take a look at why we feel like we’re failures, but before we do that, let me tell you that even some successful people feel like they’ve accomplished nothing in their lives, so these feelings are not excluded to certain type of people.
I’m a failure because:
Now let’s explore some of the reasons we sometimes feel like we’re failures:
• They told us!:as strange as it sounds, it’s true, some people give the right to define themselves to the others around them, they allow them to tell them that they’re failures and they believe them! Not knowing that they’re the only ones who have the right to define themselves, not knowing that those people could be irrational, jealous or weak, and not knowing that those people could be just afraid of going up, so they pull everyone down.
• We failed before: and who didn’t? There’s a difference between making a mistake and being the mistake, there’s a different between failing and being a failures, and in fact, failure is unavoidable if you’re serious about what you’re after, some people use failure as a lesson and move on, and some use it as an excuse and give up.
• We’re not where we “supposed” to be (yet): we all have our “supposed to be” list, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but when we fail to meet those goals at the specific time manner (for example: being a millionaire by the age of 25), we will feel like failures, even if we made half a million by the age of 25!.
There could be more reasons, but I guess those are enough for now, and actually, those reasons will only make us feel like failures, and this is not a bad thing, we can use that as motivation, we can learn from our mistakes and we can become stronger, the real problem happens when these feelings become a part of who we are, see below.
Self –concept and identity:
Don’t worry, “self-concept” is very simple, but yet very effective and also a very important factor when it comes to ending these feelings of “being” a failure, in very simple words: we all have a definition of who we are, consciously or unconsciously, this is called self concept or self-identity.
Self concept (or identity) is the way you view yourself, it’s all about how do you define yourself, do you think that you’re confident, funny, strong or an idiot, and all of your behaviors are determined by your identity and how you look to yourself, for example, if you view yourself as a shy person, will you act in an outrageous way? I don’t think so.
In fact, this concept is very strong, once we decide that we’re that kind of person, our behavior will change to support this identity, and that’s the scary part, take a wild guess: when we identify ourselves as failures, all of our behaviors and perceptions will change to prove this right.
That’s why I said above, there’s a difference between failing and being a failure, we all fail sometimes, but when that turns into a conviction, it becomes very dangerous, because now we look at ourselves as failures, and everything that we do will reflect this conviction.
This is how you can become a real failure
As I said, feeling like a failure can be a motivator, but allowing these feelings to turn into solid beliefs about who we are, that’s a perfect way to guarantee failure in life, let me give you an example to make it clear.
Let’s say that jack failed to accomplish his goal of being a successful student earlier on, and as a result, he was told by his parents that he is a failure and a loser, and when he grew up, he had a dream of being rich, so he started his own business, but for some reasons, his business failed and he became bankrupt. At that point, I would understand if Jack felt like a failure, at the end, he is just a human, he has two choices right now, to believe that he is a failure (and use all his past experiences as references to back up this belief), or refuse to adopt this “failure identity”.
If you want to learn more about self-concept (it's very useful), you can check these resources:
Self-concept - Wikipedia
Self-concept - Simple Psychology
Self-concept - 2KnowMySelf
If that sounded complicated, THEN READ THIS:
Nobody is worthless, nobody is a mistake and no body is a failure,
want a proof?
Take a look at this This Image
If you can't access it just google "famous failures"!
But I’m not Steve jobs!!
Failing is a part of life, it’s normal to miss things up, it’s normal to get your life missed up sometimes and it’s normal to start all over again, painful yes!, but it’s a part of life.
The real failure would be to surrender and “assume” that you’re a failure, the real failure is to stop trying,** I’m sure that all those successful people above has felt like losers at some point in their lives, but they didn’t make “failure” as a part of who they are, they kept on believing and they had a strong faith, and that’s the real success, to believe yourself and go after what you truly want, that’s the real success, **no matter what’s the outcome.
I know happy failures!
There are people out there with less than you have, but yet, they’re feeling great, successful and satisfied, and there are famous, successful and rich people who are feeling like they accomplished nothing! So how come is that?.
There’s only one explanation for that, which is: those feeling of being a failure has nothing to do with what you have or haven’t, with what you accomplished or didn’t accomplish, they have nothing to do with that, they come from one place: your mindset and perception! And if you think that you’ve heard this a lot and it’s not true, then give us your explanation.
One last advice
Last but not least, you need to check some of your rules, what does that mean? As I mentioned above, we all have our “supposed to be” list, and while there’s nothing wrong with that, we still need to make sure that our list is not actually damaging us.
To be successful, you don’t have to own a yacht!, you should be proud of yourself because you’re at least trying to make your life better.
And even if you didn’t try anything to better your life, you still can! All the successful people started from the bottom, just dig in their stories and you will find that they’ve literally climbed out of hell, you just need to be brave and go for it.
Also keep on mind that the only way to fail in life is to give up, the minute that you surrender and call yourself a failure, is the minute you actually become one, but as long as you’re still believing and fighting, you’re successful.
So, there's something you need to do, don't you?! Know that these feelings won't go away unless you do something first, you can't convince your mind that you're not failure by just reading some stuffs online, you got to use the information you read and do something right away!
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  3. How to know if someone likes you
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  5. 5 Signs that Show that Someone Likes you - Part I
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